It has been long since 2010 i didn't log in to this page. Out of the sudden, the feeling of posting a blog came back to me. I have nowhere or no one to talk to, quite personal, but i couldn't stand for it. After 7 years, i got married. i married to a english educated wife, her bring up is totally different, family background also different.
I always think that marriage is not about 2 persons, but is about 2 families. What i mean is...in our life, we have the extra persons in our new chapter of life whom we called them as our parents in law. I will always remember what my father told me ..."remember, your wife's parents are your parents as well. Treat them as your parents". I always remember and practice..sometimes i would have overdone it, i guess. At the end, i will be the one getting all the unnecessary irritation and frustration. Am i thinking too much? I guess i am, but i couldn't control it as what i see and what i think is rather a fact.
"GK, please remember he has a son, you are not!" This is what my best pal Always remind me. Am i stubborn enough to ignore that statement? Or i am really that kind? Am i really that generous? I am in the state of confusion. When you do good thing, make sure there is no expectation. If there is expectation, then we are not doing things sincerely. Otherwise, frustration, disappointment, all sort of negative forces will come to you. This is rather true. But the fact is...i am not saint. Of course i will not be expecting any things in the form physically. Just part of family. That's it.
Today just day 2 of the Hainan trip. Every night, i will have a special surprise for myself. YUP, i call it as surprise. Things that i always believe incorrect, actually is the other way round. In certain circumstances, you will see something clearer, more thorough. I totally got it today.
I am speaking not in a anger tone, but rather in disappointment. Any kind of blames were out on me..since day 1. Yes, i am trying to be busy body, wanting to help..yet i am a monkey that causes all these happen. Be it a joke, but suffocation is there. I try my best... until visiting the ancestor village...
After dinner.. walking without direction, without purpose...so i suggested to visit the ancestor village which is 10min away from our hotel. Earlier i came out with an idea earlier... to visit the ancestor village..as far as i remember, the idea of visiting Hainan is because of visiting the ancestor place. (Before i further elaborate, i must tell, this is the SIN family ancestor place. Nothing to do with my grandparents at all.)yes, i insisted, i insisted to go, i decided for him. I should not have expected anything... because i am just an outsider. An OUTSIDER in the family. I use the word..because i feel it. Despite "we are family" always hanging around the mouth...
"Everyone come, we take photo. LJ come as well"...1..2..3...ok... "louder"..."ookay.1..2..3"
Why should i be in the photographer. Is that so important..?is just a minor thing..i do agree. None of photo taking session, i was invited... i was only ordered to help to take photos..in such happy reunion situation, of course i should not be the destroyer..i can't, because i can't hide my feeling.
"This is grandpa bedroom, LJ come..".."we are planning to take a photo in front of this old house, LJ come..."is that so important my presence in the photos? No..this is not. This is not what i mean. What is really bothering me...is the way the person you care you love treating you. I always believe he is so special, so reliable, so loving, so kind to everyone...but today i really see everything clearer.. things that come from subconscious mind is always true..reflecting from deep inside the heart. In Chinese saying...blood thicker than water..i disagree. I always believe family is not about the blood but who will hold your hand until the end...and today, i proved myself wrong. When coming back from the village.."i think my positive mindscience is working, positivity successfully lead me to where my father stayed"... yes.. the positive force pushing me to calling this, calling that.. messaging this and that...goggling here and there..just to see how near the village is.
i was called as "monkey"..doing all the unnecessary things. Really.. i try to take it as joke but sometimes...i fail. So many things in the mind...is really a mess.
Whatever it is...i am still behaving as stupid as before. May be becoming more silly. With all the rejections and accusations that has "offered" to me, I am still treating you as my own father... despite the way you treat me. I know, if he knows about how i feel... he will not bother as well..because i am not SIN but OOI. I am Hokkian, not Hainanese. Still, i will love you and do whatever i could, treating you like treating my own parents.
Another 3 and half days to go.. i don't want to spoil the peace and enjoyment of this trip. I hope tomorrow will be better.
TOMORROW WILL BE A BETTER DAY.
LET THE PAST BE PASSED. LIFE HAS NO "TAKE 2".
WE ONLY LIVE ONCE, BE HAPPY, BE TRUTHFUL, BE KIND, BE LOVING.
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